LittleMermaid asked:
This seems to be a major topic of debate on here. I don’t understand why some think one type of mom is better than the other. I have been a stay-at-home mom but I have also, and am now, a working mom. I have seen women on here, mainly SAHM’s, who comment that women would be able to stay at home if they managed money better or didn’t spend money on non-essentials. How do they know this? Families are as different from each other as DNA. What works for one family, may not work for another. You could take 2 men and give them the same salary, lets say $30,000, and have the moms stay-at-home, and one family could make it work and one couldn’t. WHY? Each family will have different situations and things come up in their families, that the other doesn’t. Once may have their vehicle break down and have to pay a mechanic to fix it. The other could have a family member who could do the repairs for an 1/8th of the cost. One family could have unexpected househole expences that the other one doesn’t
No one is debating that it is better for a child(ren) to be with a parent during the day or after school than a daycare, but that isn’t always possible. So why is it that some feel that if it isn’t possible for a mom to stay at home, then she is selfish and is working to have extras and so that she can go shopping? If a mom stays at home, and therefore finds herself having to tell her kids they cant have something or go somewhere because mom and dad can’t afford it, then is that really fair to the kids? What if something comes up, like new tires or a new hot water heater is needed, and a family lives paycheck to paycheck, because after paying bills and buying groceries there is only about $5 left over? What do they do then? Wouldn’t it be better to make sure that all bills get paid, that there is extra money for things for the kids or things that might come up unexpectedly? Even if that means mom had to work.
My sister-n-law is a stay at home mom. I can’t count how many times I have heard her say that they can’t afford something for their kids, including buying my nephew a cheap Halloween costume! I watch then strugle evey month, overdrawing their accounts because my brother doesn’t make enough to pay all the bills, or paying one bill but not another. Why would anyone purposly do this to themselves? Is this really better for the kids?
My sister-n-law is a stay at home mom. I can’t count how many times I have heard her say that they can’t afford something for their kids, including buying my nephew a cheap Halloween costume! I watch then strugle evey month, overdrawing their accounts because my brother doesn’t make enough to pay all the bills, or paying one bill but not another. Why would anyone purposly do this to themselves? Is this really better for the kids?
My sister-n-law is a stay at home mom. I can’t count how many times I have heard her say that they can’t afford something for their kids, including buying my nephew a cheap Halloween costume! I watch then strugle evey month, overdrawing their accounts because my brother doesn’t make enough to pay all the bills, or paying one bill but not another. Why would anyone purposly do this to themselves? Is this really better for the kids?
This seems to be a major topic of debate on here. I don’t understand why some think one type of mom is better than the other. I have been a stay-at-home mom but I have also, and am now, a working mom. I have seen women on here, mainly SAHM’s, who comment that women would be able to stay at home if they managed money better or didn’t spend money on non-essentials. How do they know this? Families are as different from each other as DNA. What works for one family, may not work for another. You could take 2 men and give them the same salary, lets say $30,000, and have the moms stay-at-home, and one family could make it work and one couldn’t. WHY? Each family will have different situations and things come up in their families, that the other doesn’t. Once may have their vehicle break down and have to pay a mechanic to fix it. The other could have a family member who could do the repairs for an 1/8th of the cost. One family could have unexpected househole expences that the other one doesn’t
No one is debating that it is better for a child(ren) to be with a parent during the day or after school than a daycare, but that isn’t always possible. So why is it that some feel that if it isn’t possible for a mom to stay at home, then she is selfish and is working to have extras and so that she can go shopping? If a mom stays at home, and therefore finds herself having to tell her kids they cant have something or go somewhere because mom and dad can’t afford it, then is that really fair to the kids? What if something comes up, like new tires or a new hot water heater is needed, and a family lives paycheck to paycheck, because after paying bills and buying groceries there is only about $5 left over? What do they do then? Wouldn’t it be better to make sure that all bills get paid, that there is extra money for things for the kids or things that might come up unexpectedly? Even if that means mom had to work.
My sister-n-law is a stay at home mom. I can’t count how many times I have heard her say that they can’t afford something for their kids, including buying my nephew a cheap Halloween costume! I watch then strugle evey month, overdrawing their accounts because my brother doesn’t make enough to pay all the bills, or paying one bill but not another. Why would anyone purposly do this to themselves? Is this really better for the kids?
My sister-n-law is a stay at home mom. I can’t count how many times I have heard her say that they can’t afford something for their kids, including buying my nephew a cheap Halloween costume! I watch then strugle evey month, overdrawing their accounts because my brother doesn’t make enough to pay all the bills, or paying one bill but not another. Why would anyone purposly do this to themselves? Is this really better for the kids?
My sister-n-law is a stay at home mom. I can’t count how many times I have heard her say that they can’t afford something for their kids, including buying my nephew a cheap Halloween costume! I watch then strugle evey month, overdrawing their accounts because my brother doesn’t make enough to pay all the bills, or paying one bill but not another. Why would anyone purposly do this to themselves? Is this really better for the kids?