cwhisper_98 asked: I am considering becoming a stay at home mom. I have 4 children though they are not mine. They are my fiance’s. We have an 11, 9, and twins that will be 7 this year. I really want a career in Real Estate and I am thinking of staying home and working on that. He makes good money (20 an hour). I make okay money (10 an hour.) I want too, I am not sure. Any suggestions?
One other thing. I can’t have kids on my own, I have had my female parts taken out.
I can do my real estate during the day. But should I leave my current job to do so, it would allow me to have flexiablity with appts for the kids, school trips. The only thing is we would be relying on him untill the real estate kicked off.
If that is want you want, go for it. It means alot of sense.
I am all for staying at home with the kids. I did it and have a career now. But, they are not your children (and I know that sounds harsh) but why give up your dream for his kids. Perhaps once he marries you and makes the commitment to you, then think about it. For now be a great step-mom to them and get your career in Real Estate, at least then you will have something to fall back on.
hi i know whats it like u shoud be a mom that stays at the house i love my mom and im in a 4 br an sis so good luck
I think you should consider yourself first in this situation. Get your Real Estate license and start working in the market if it’s something you want to do. The kids must all be in school, so go on and do something nice for yourself. It might be your last chance if you tie yourself to a pre-made family. Godloveya.
I have done both I like to work so that suites me the best.Real estate is a great carear you can be very flexiable on your hours.Even though your husband makes great money you probably will have to cut back until your carear jumps off.Easli done though just don’t eat out as much,go to the movies you know the stuff that is fun ,lol,You remember thaat even though real estate can be great it can also not be so.people don’t respect your time and your weekends so you can choose to deal with that as you wish
best of luck
FYI-I’m posting with my DH’s avatar, so this may sound weird and look like a guy is writing it, but its really not! (gotta get my own account on here)
OK I have personally been in just about all possible scenarios, working mom full time, part time, SAHM, WAHM, going to school while being a mom, and running my own business from home. They all have benefits, and they all have things that are less than ideal. To me, the hardest was working from home and going to school, because there were the kids, but I also had other stuff I had to be doing. Trying to clone yourself isn’t easy! Working is hard because you have to find someone you trust to take care of your kids, who would do things the way you would, that your kids like and that likes your kids. (We are lucky to have a sitter who practically cries when I pick up the kiddos on Friday, b/c she misses them all weekend.) Your kids are in school I’m assuming, so this wouldn’t be as big of a challenge for you.
I think you will be hard pressed financially to raise four kids on $30/hour, let alone on $20. Going to real estate school is a good idea to help better your future, but like I said, juggling roles is tough.
I think in your shoes what I would do is try to work and/or go to school during the day when the kids are at school. When they are home, they are are pretty crucial ages, sooo much crap goes on in middle school these days, and it would be nice for them to have the stability of you being there for them.
What benefits do you see in being home during the day while they are at school? Unless you are planning to homeschool them too. Being home can be very isolating. I felt lonely and underappreciated a lot of the time. You definately have to be the sort of person who can handle monotony and can deal without any praise for hard work, and you have to be able to enjoy the process, not just the result.
I currently work about 25 hours a week, and I get to spend lots of time with the kids, I get to interact with women I can relate to, and I get some financial kick backs. My kids are doing great with this routine as well.
The best advice I can give as a parent is to trust your gut. If you feel like something is the best for your family, no list of pros and cons is going to outweigh that.
You said that you’d be relying on your fiance’s salary until the real estate really kicks off. Don’t forget that this is a really bad time for selling homes. This is now a buyer’s market. The prices of homes are still high and houses are just sitting on the market for months without selling. Having four kids and trying to schedule an open house will be quite a challenge. You’re going to have to go with the buyers and sellers schedule if you want to show the house. If you don’t have a reliable babysitter, then you might find this difficult. I honestly would wait until the kids got a little older before I got into something such as real estate. But this is something you’re going to have to weigh the pros and cons on. Good luck.
Judging by the childrens ages you could go to real estate classes while they are in school and be there when they get home.Summer is coming so see if you can get them into a day camp and then attend classes. There is also the online route.Most real estate classes are very flexible since you have no toddlers is should be very easy.
Selling real estate takes up A LOT OF TIME. Not really a job you want to do and consider yourself a stay at home mom.
I sell Mary Kay it fits into my day very easily. I have play dates with mom and make money. It is very fulfilling emotionally,mentally and financially.
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